I've wanted to write something about this subject for a while, but I never quite knew how, or what to say, or how to make it relatable/understandable.
My mother is an incredible human, a wonderful, loving, caring, understanding, creative, inspiring, beautiful human. My whole life she has been there, she's helped me through everything.
She's been through so much herself, yet still is able to be peaceful, and giving, and loving, and understanding. So incredibly understanding!
I remember phone conversations where I would be yelling down the phone with anger and frustration of my situations, venting my fury to her, and she would be calm and understanding, she would always tell me, this is momentary, everything in life is momentary, nothing is forever, you will get through this.
It has taken me a long time to truly understand this, I used to hate/fight certain situations I would find myself in, never accepting anything, never taking any blame, holding onto past feelings, words, anything that would allow me to be the victim, anything that would make it okay for me to wait until someone else fixed my issues or my problems.
If you can learn this peacefulness, this ease of life, this acceptance, then you will live an incredibly fulfilled and peaceful life.
Momentary, the name of this post, is something I repeate to myself everyday, everything is momentary, everything bad will pass, just like everything that is good will also pass, it is up to us to chose what we hold onto and what we let go of, if you hold onto a sadness you will stay sad, if you can learn to accept it and let it go you are leaving room for happiness to come in. If you hold onto happiness for too long it can sometimes turn into sadness, therefor you must live every moment in the moment, without concern for the past, or worry for the future. You also have to remind yourself that when you're holding onto a feeling weather it be happy or sad, that you are making a conscious choice to allow yourself to feel a certain way, we actually have the power to feel happy or sad.
I think this generation is especially attracted to the 'playing the victim' card, the 'woe is me' card, and the removal of all responsibility.
Everything we do, everything we feel, everything we allow to affect us is by our own choice, we can choose.
You can choose.
Hold on, or let go.
Life is much lighter when you let go.